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DETROIT FREE PRESS
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Sunday, March 15, 1998
METRO FINAL
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MITCH ALBOM
Copyright (c) 1998, Detroit Free Press
ALL-GIRLS SCHOOLS AREN'T A CURE-ALL
Right off the bat, I confess a certain nostalgia for my school years. I had
fun. I had friends. I had laughs. So perhaps my logic is blurry. I never
realized that being a boy was such a distraction.
I knew girls were a distraction. I discovered that in sixth grade, when the
first girl I liked cast a quick glance in my direction, fluttered her
eyelashes, and I felt a queasy, goose-bumping rush. At that moment, the
teacher could have said "America was discovered by hyenas" and I would have
written it down.
Still, I never knew that such episodes were reason enough to separate boys
from girls. Apparently, they are. Apparently, while the presence of girls has
been a dream-inducing distraction to boys, the presence of boys has been a
flat-out hindrance to girls' education. We bother them. We intimidate them. We
throw them off -- at least according to some educators.
This is partly why all-girl and all-boy schools have been established. For
decades, girls have lagged behind boys in several subjects, most notably math,
where high school girls have averaged 35-40 points lower on SAT tests.
Separated by sex -- the theory goes -- boys and girls will concentrate better
and learn more.
One problem. It doesn't seem to work.
A new report by the American Association of University Women, which studied
single-sex schools, said that while "girls perceive the classrooms ...to be
superior and may register gains in confidence, these benefits have not
translated into measured improvements in achievement.
"Some studies, in fact, report diminishing achievement."
OK, boys. Back in the pool!
The uniform issue
Now, I am not surprised by this report. It's true, boys and girls spend an
awful lot of time on each other from age 10 to oh, say, death. And recently, I
have heard from many parents saying never mind this new study, separate is the
only way to go.
"My daughter wasn't getting anything accomplished except gossip and passing
notes," they say, "now, with no boys around, she concentrates on schoolwork."
"Boys don't like to sing or do creative things in front of girls," they say,
"but come out of their shell when it's only boys."
This may be true. But let's be honest. Intimidation and embarrassment are not
gender-unique. Girls can be intimidating to other girls. Boys can be
embarrassed in front of other boys.
Nor are distractions limited to the opposite sex. When adolescence hits, kids
will chatter and fuss about anything, from who's the most popular kid to which
MTV video is the coolest.
I recently spoke to some religious school parents, who thought they'd solve
the problem of "clothes competition" once their kids wore uniforms to school.
Instead, the kids began competing within the uniforms, some with the pants
slung low, or certain buttons unbuttoned.
The fact is, teenage competition isn't about the item, it's about identity.
Other answers
Now, this latest study did say girls in all-female schools showed higher
"self-esteem." Americans are big on this. In a recent study of top students
worldwide, we were No. 1 in self-esteem. Unfortunately, we didn't do so well
in math and science, behind such poorer countries as Cyprus.
Cyprus?
This suggests that maybe our problem has less to do with passing notes and
more to do with the teaching, administration, curriculum, class size, TV
watching, endless after-school soccer games and ballet classes, and the
lawsuits for schools that exert too much discipline.
Not to mention parents complaining if teachers assign too much homework.
Self-esteem is good. But self-esteem should, like most things, begin at home.
Same goes for how the sexes treat each other. Having your boy go to an all-boy
school, then come home and listen to a rap record about "slapping bitches"
seems a little counterproductive, doesn't it?
Besides, there's a certain sweet awkwardness to the whole boy-girl thing in
junior high and high school. Not all of it is about intimidation, teasing and
sexual pressure. Some is about learning how to get along with someone
different from you. Some is about discovering your capacity to like, love, to
hurt and to be hurt.
With the right guidance, this can all be a beneficial, educating experience.
Nobody talks about what happens to single-gender graduates when they finally
hit a college campus and discover things are mixed. Whoa! You want to talk
confusion, sexual pressure and wild parties? Only by that point, the parents
aren't around.
I'm not saying we shouldn't have the right to choose all-boys or all-girls
schools. And I don't doubt that, despite this new report, certain things are
easier in gender-separate programs.
But life is with people, it always will be, boys with girls, blacks with
whites, nationals with foreigners. And somehow, deep inside, the sooner we
learn to work together as kids, the better we'll all be as adults.
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